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You’ve heard it all the time. Every relationship is going to have its ups and downs. A fairy tale relationship where both of you never fight doesn’t exist. However, when your relationship has felt off for a while, what should you do? Ending your relationship without trying to fix it first is a bad move. Here are some ways that you can repair your relationship and possibly put it back on track.
Try Online Counselling
If your relationship feels like it’s falling apart, there is no shame in talking to a counsellor online. Online counselling for couples can help the two of you understand each other better and to help find the spark that you remember so much. Services like ReGain.us can help.
Spot Miscommunications
Miscommunications can be the downfall of a relationship. You may think you communicated your point clearly, but you did not, and once your partner didn’t listen, you are quite upset. For instance, if you said you’re hungry, you may have expected your partner to fix you a snack, and when they didn’t, you're upset. Always being direct and polite is the solution, especially if your partner is socially awkward.
Date Again
This sounds silly, but going on date nights can help invigorate your relationship. Put your kids to bed if you have them and go see a movie, go grab some food, or have a nice night in the park. Dress up and fix up your skin and nails to look as great as possible. You won’t regret it one bit.
Express Your Feelings Politely
So many relationships fall apart because the emotions are bottled up. You may have a quirk your partner dislikes, but they don’t say anything to keep the peace. Eventually, their feelings about that quirk grow worse and worse until they pop. That’s never a good thing. It’s important to talk to your partner about anything negative you feel but do it nicely. Don’t sound accusatory, and use “I” language rather than “You.”
Experiment in Bed
Now it’s time to get spicy. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it’s important. Sometimes, your sex life starts dwindling and by spicing it up, you can help improve the relationship. Try some new toys. Try having sex in cosplay. Take a visit to the local adult store or online adult shop and see what you can do.
Spend More Time With Your Kids
If you have children, you can improve your relationship with both them and your spouse by having them involved in all sorts of family activities. Buy a new playground set. Go to the beach. Plan a family holiday. It doesn’t matter. For ideas on what you can do, click here or go here for more information.
Figure Out What You Loved About Your Partner
If you're always fighting, it can be a challenge to remember what you loved about your partner, to begin with. Take a break and remember what you loved. Their smile. Their sense of humour. Try going back to that. We don’t necessarily mean you should regress, but instead have more of the traits you love with your partner.
Some Relationships Weren’t Meant to Be
If you've tried everything, including counselling, and you just don’t seem to feel it anymore, maybe it’s time to end things. While that is the unfortunate outcome, it’s sometimes needed when the two of you do nothing but fight.
However, most relationships are fixable, especially in the early stages of falling apart. Keep your relationship maintained and you should have no problem.
